My Husband grieves for our son. So how do I share my belief in life after death?

I had an e-mail from a Lady in Britain this week, who does believe in life after death, and does believe that her son is in a safe place. Her belief is simple, and does not yet come with an understanding of how to contact the Afterlife, but she is unable to share her belief with her husband.

• How do you tell someone there’s life after death, and you can communication with family in it, and verify it?

One of the problems with belief in the afterlife is that when you realise it's real and you know that you can contact loved ones who have passed away, you have a natural tendency to want to tell others.  It's not because you're trying to show off or anything like that. It's because you believe in it and you know that it helps you and comforts you to know that people who have passed away okay. 

So in this case, her husband is very upset about the loss of their son. Misses him terribly, but doesn't believe there is an afterlife and doesn't believe he is okay and doesn't believe he's contactable.  This is the problem: there will never be enough proof.  If someone is sceptical, as opposed to being guarded, but open minded, is they look for the flaws. Much like the person who sees the glass as half empty, when someone else sees the glass as half full. If you tell a depressed person about all the good things, they revert back to seeing the bad.

I went through this with my wife.  Those who have a look at my website on contacting the afterlife will realise that I made my discovery accidentally a few years ago, and prior to this, I didn't know how to speak to people who had passed away, and after I worked out how to do it, regardless of what I told her to prove that it was real and that her father was actually trying to talk to her, she wouldn’t believe me.  And this is over the course of dozens of encounters, with numerous items of specific information about places and times I was unaware of (and in another country). She couldn’t understand how I knew these things, but couldn’t bring herself to accept it was genuinely her father talking through me.

In the end it was something so simple as a box of pencils falling on the ground, while she was at work and it was my reference to this when I didn't know about it, and my reference to what it looked like that made her realise that I must actually be telling the truth. It was only then that she believed he was actually coming through. 

So the difficulty here is that whilst you believe it, and you're excited about it, it's difficult to share it with somebody else.  I haven't done seminars for a little while but when I was, it was a common question that came up and my answer to it is almost the same today. In the seminars I would give them some brochures to take home, and suggested they given one or post one to the person who they wanted to help, but don't harass them.  Let them take their time.  If there's any hope that they might want to believe they could contact family in the afterlife, they'll look at the brochure and perhaps go the next step.

For those who are reading this on a web site or article, can I make a similar suggestion: Suggest they take a look at my website on life after death.  There are many other sites around, but I have tried to present my information sincerely, with compassion and understanding, in a non-confronting environment. In particular, the ‘words of comfort’ poem “Don’t Grieve – for I am still with you” has helped many to take the first step in realising how to contact the afterlife.

If not my site, perhaps a book that you might buy off the Internet or from your local bookshop (whether mine or anyone else). Or maybe a Movie: There are a number of ones that present this idea fairly gently, including  "Sleepless in Seattle" with Tom Hanks,  "Ghost" with Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze, or “PS I love you”

The main thing is not to push and above all, don't keep trying to give proof that you're getting messages or can 'feel' your son still around.  A person who is struggling to believe this will put you down and make you doubt your own thoughts. Hold your faith.  Keep making your contact with passed loved ones and verify the way I suggest in my materials, and be content with that.  And slowly let your partner come around. The most important thing is not to do something that will destroy your faith. – Phil G.