Stressed?? Is it your work, relations or just your anger

Are you one of those thousands of professionals who are going for stress relieving sessions and still not getting proper results. You have tried yoga, art of living, massages etc., but not getting long lasting results?? Do you blame your heavy workload, your marriage, neighbors, colleagues for your high blood pressure and weak heart?

Well, for a moment think about this, may be you are responsible for your stressed lifestyle. May be your anger is responsible for half of your diseases. Many of us are not happy with our current job or boss or co-workers and this frustration is being released on our family. In some cases vise-versa may also occur. And most of us have this feeling that our personal life and carrier should not be mixed into each other. For this reason we do not let our anger come out. We cannot shout at our boss and it’s not fair to shout at our wives or innocent children, so we keep quiet. But what happens to our anger and rage? Well, it remains within and keeps our brain and heart busy unnecessarily. After some time we don’t even realize that why we are so stressed and why can’t we get relaxed. The reason is, we meet the source of our anger daily so it keeps us thinking about it whenever the source comes in front of us. I am not saying that we should start yelling to get relaxed. But what we can do is - avoid this anger. Believe me if you can hold on your anger for just 60 seconds, you will find that it wasn’t that big issue to get angry. After all human beings do mistakes, your boss, your wife, children, colleagues, they are all humans and so they may commit mistake. They may act rude or idiot some time. What you should think that does it really matter that much. If you really think that you get angry very often and it is not good for your health, family, career and friends, here are some simple ways to avoid the instant of rage.

Start counting to ten. This is very old trick and most of you may find it useless. So a recent change is that you think about your favorite food item after every count. That is instead of 1..2..3..4... You may do it like 1 ice-cream..2 ice-cream..3 ice-cream.. This will surely help if you take it a little seriously.

Ask yourself a question- ‘Will it really matter after two days?’ Most of the time you will find the answer as no.

If you realize after some time that the person you scolded was actually not responsible for your anger, just go to the person, say sorry and confess why you were angry. This way you will be guilty and free at the same time. And after a few times of this exercise you will naturally avoid your rage so that you may not have to say sorry to someone again.

Read and learn more about the consequences of too much anger on your health in detail. You will find that how dangerous it gets with age for your heart, brain, skin and muscles. The more you will know about the extreme consequences like heart attack, brain hemorrhage, high blood pressure, early aging, obesity etc., more you will naturally tend to avoid it.

You cannot change your whole life, you cannot change the people around you. What you can change is yourself. Avoiding anger takes much less of energy then enraging in anger, so try it out. May be people around you will notice you and try to change themselves to suit your calmness and happiness.