Don't Fall in Love With a Russian Woman's Picture

Don't fall in love with a picture on a website. This may sound obvious, but I can't tell you how many times I heard the words, "But she doesn't look anything like the girl I saw in the picture," after he met her in real life.

One story sticks in my mind in particular. This gentleman had ten days in Moscow on a tour. He went to three socials in three days where he had the opportunity to meet about six hundred to one thousand women.

He kept saying over and over, "They don't hold a candle to the woman I have been corresponding with for nearly a year." After the socials, he had another six days in Moscow.

He decided to board an overnight train to a city five hundred miles east to meet the woman he had corresponded with for nearly a year.

He returned four days later. When he got back, he was extremely bitter. In his words, she had not turned out to be nearly as attractive as her picture on the website. He spent two days with her "so I didn't hurt her feelings," before making his retreat.

In my mind, there are two lessons to be learned her. First, don't fall in love with a picture. The women I met, whose pictures I had first seen on a website, appeared similar in real life to their pictures. Some of them were better looking in real life than their pictures on the internet and some of them, let us say, were not as attractive in person as their glamour photos.

Some people take good pictures and some of them don't. Look at as many pictures of each potential prospect as you can. Ask them to send some recent photos to you. However, don't place all your bets on one photo.

People Change. They gain weight. They get older. Some women send in pictures of themselves five or ten years ago. Some men do that too.

I had professional photographs taken of myself that I sent to women I was seeking a relationship with. One woman commented when we finally met that I didn't look like anything like my picture even though it was taken only six months previously.

The other lesson from the story above is that when you are on a tour you only have so much time that you are there. You need to make the best use of your time.

Going on a four day boondoggle is an incredible waste of time, when time is limited, especially when you are killing extra time with her after you've made the decision that its not working out "just so you don't hurt her feelings." When you spend two days with her and don't call her back, you definitely are going to hurt her feelings.

If things aren't working out between you and a woman, the best thing you can do for the both of you is to cut things short. Save both yourself and her some time. It doesn't benefit anyone to spend time with her when things aren't going to go anywhere.