Learning to speak in public with confidence is a surefire way of boosting your overall self-esteem. Doing so gives you a real challenge and, because it is actually really easy to achieve, can give you a huge sense of satisfaction and achievement.
When I had finished my education and started out in the world of work I was a quiet and somewhat shy individual. But eventually I realized that if I wanted to progress in the company in the sales and business development roles I desired, I would need to change. So I volunteered to attend a training course on presentation skills and the transformation started there and then!
You too can develop as a person by learning the techniques for becoming an accomplished speech maker. But beware because in all endeavors there is the right way and, of course, the wrong way! And here are seven ways to ensure you fail as a public speaker:
#1 Don't Prepare
It is vital that you spend time planning a speech, gathering information for it, preparing it, and rehearsing thoroughly. If you fail to plan your talk then it is simply going to bomb!
#2 Don't Know Your Topic
There are many people who, when making a speech, will simply read from a script, sometimes using other people's material. To them the subject is irrelevant, but that will soon come across to their audience too! It is essential that you speak about a topic you know about, are genuinely interested in, and can enthuse about, if you actually want anyone to listen.
#3 Don't Have Structure
A good speech should flow like a good book. It should have an effective opening, a main body with a number of points which move logically forwards, and an ending that will be remembered. You need to be able to carry your audience effortlessly along with you.
#4 Don't Grab the Attention of Your Audience
At the beginning of your speech you must make your audience sit up and listen. Use a startling fact, a pertinent question, or a challenging quotation - whatever it takes to get them on board.
#5 Don't Look Good
It won't matter how good your talk is if you don't pay attention to your appearance. Make sure you look clean and tidy and dress appropriately for the occasion. And don't stand with your hands in your pockets, or keep hopping from foot to foot. Your audience will soon be put off.
#6 Don't Sound Good
It is vital that when you rehearse you pay attention to how you sound. There's nothing worse than a dull monotone voice, so put expression into your speech. Remember that nerves can make you talk more quickly and affect your breathing. So control your breathing, try some exercises, and don't be afraid to build pauses into your talk.
#7 Don't Leave Your Audience with Something Memorable
No matter how good your subject matter, if you don't ensure your audience remembers it you will have failed. So end with a challenge or a call to action so that they have to act on what they've just heard.
Learning to speak in public is just one way of challenging yourself and developing a new and worthwhile skill. But I recommend it as it helped transform me from a quiet and unsure young man into a confident and successful business manager. So why not take action today and start your own journey to success.
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By: voterperson | 09-08-2008
My new question: (1) If you were Doreen would you say that yes my mom always thought I was thin and (2) she just said that remark about people calling me fat because she was mad"
UPDATE:Doreen:"Mom you always thought I was thin"
Mom: "Yes"
Doreen: "What about when we had another fight at home after the fight in the car and you said that I get mad if people call me fat"
Mom: "Who would ever call you fat. I only said that because I was mad"
STORY TO REFRESH MEMORY: OK yesterday Doreen?s mom (in her 80?s) and Doreen (in her 50?s) went to see ?Mama Mia? which was wonderful. Any way as the movie started all of a sudden Doreen got very hot and extremely dizzy. (A few years ago Doreen got dizzy and she made the mistake of going to a few doctors, each one misdiagnosed why she was dizzy and with the medication each doctor gave Doreen, Doreen kept getting worse until she went to one doctor who cured Doreen).
Mom: ?What is wrong?
Doreen: ?I feel dizzy?
The dizziness stopped but Doreen was nervous a little bit throughout the movie. When the movie ended:
Mom: ?Just wait until we get into the car I want to talk to you?
Doreen: ?Well if we are going to have a fight I don?t want to hear it?
Mom: ?Then take the bus?
But Doreen got into the car
Mom: ?You have to stop drinking coffee?
Doreen: ?I know I am going to stop?
(And Doreen thought that would be the end of the conversation - wrong)
Mom: ?I know you drink coffee for weight loss. You don?t need to lose any more weight?
Doreen: ?But I was always skinny?
Mom: ?Yes but now you are even skinnier?
This got Doreen mad and they had some fight. When they came home her mom said nasty things to Doreen and Doreen said nasty things back to her mom.
Mom: ?You need to gain weight?
Doreen: ?No I don?t?
Mom: ?It isn?t just the coffee but the way you eat?
Doreen: ?I like salads?
Mom: ?But when you order a salad they give you mostly lettuce and six strips of chicken you leave over two.?
When Doreen went on the computer she found out the reason she was getting dizzy and it was because of the herb she is taking but Doreen cannot tell her mom that because her mom is very opinionated.
THEN TODAY;
Doreen: ?Mom do you want to know why I got mad yesterday it is because you made it sound like I wasn?t always thin?
Mom: ?That is how you hear it?
Then about five minutes later they had a terrible fight because her mom started to rant and rave.
Doreen: ?All I wanted was for you to answer that one question?
Mom: ?OK yes you were fat before - how?s that? - her mom said this in a tone to get Doreen mad and upset.
My question: How would you interpret both conversations and would do you think Doreen misinterpreted the word ?any more?? Would you think ?any more? means that Doreen?s mom did not think she was thin in the past. GIVE DETAILS
YOU SEE: Doreen is upset because now she feels that whatever she puts on is not good enough and her clothes are beautiful.
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Stacy: ?Mom isn?t this pretty?
Mom: ?Yes?
Stacy: ?This is a winter blouse. It will be beautiful with a turtle neck under it. I can wear it in the winter with a turtle neck and pants?
Mom: ?You have to get a job to wear the clothes?
This got Stacy really mad.
Stacy: ?Are you saying that I shouldn?t wear it if I don?t have a job?
Mom: ?No, but wouldn?t it be nice if you had a job to wear them to?
Stacy: ?Yes I would like a job, but I buy the clothes for me?
Stacy and her mom had a fight each saying nasty things to one another. Stacy was upset at the comment her mother made ?You have to get a job to wear the clothes.? Yes Stacy wants a job, but she purchased the clothes to wear for herself.
My question: If the comment ?You have to get a job to wear the clothes? was made to you would you automatically jump to the conclusion that the person was saying you don?t need the clothes unless you have a job and would you think they were saying that you should not buy the clothes for yourself or what would you think - details please
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