How to reduce Stress, Anxiety and Depression- LIVE HAPPILY
No matter how rich or famous we become if we get worried about different things,Life won't be fascinating to us because worrying too much will result in Stress, Anxiety and Depression and other harmful diseases which are not actually good for us mentally and physically.
So even if we get all the desired things around the world, we won't be happy!!
Napoleon Bonaparte and Helen Keller are the perfect evidences for this phenomena.
Napoleon Bonaparte had everything; Fame, Power, Money even then on Saint Helena Island Napoleon stated "I HAVE NEVER KNOWN 6 HAPPY DAYS IN LIFE"
On the other hand over the same place Helen Keller who was BLIND, DEAF and DUMB declared that "I HAVE FOUND LIFE SO BEAUTIFUL"
Now the question is if Helen Keller can live happily for 78 years even with so many problems, then why not us?
Alexis Carrel- A Nobel Prize winner once said "PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO FIGHT WORRY DIE EARLY"
Dr.O.F.Goberon a Chief Physician told that 70%OF PATIENTS CAN CURE THEMSELVES
IF THEY ONLY GET RID OF THEIR "FEARS" AND "WORRIES"
In a study 15000 patients were examined, who had stomach disorders they found out that
5/4patients did not showed any physical reason rather
FEAR,HATE, WORRIES, SELFISHNESS WERE THE REASONS FOR THEIR ILLNESS
Many Doctors say that Stomach Ulcers which can take your life, Heart Diseases,Headaches, Insomnia and some kinds of Paralysis are nothing but the results of our over-worrying attitude.
Now you may get the idea that worrying too much is very dangerous for us!!
Today I'm going to tell you A MAGIC FORMULA FOR SOLVING WORRYING SITUATIONS
Willis H.Carrier was an Engineer, he was once given a project of installing GAS CLEANING Devices which was a million dollars Project. after installing those devices Carrier came to know that the devices are not performing according to their promised outcome and due to that Carrier was blamed for the loss of million dollars and he got very depressed and even lost his sleep but then he thought that worrying this much would not help him to overcome this situation.so he came up with a technique to deal with this problem and the technique was very effective that he still uses it even after 30 years.
There are 3 simple steps in this technique
STEP 1. ANALYSE THE SITUATION FEARLESSLY AND HONESTLY AND FIGURE OUT WHAT IS THE WORST THAT COULD POSSIBLE HAPPEN
WhenCarrier thought about the consequences, he learnt that due to this failure hewould not be imprisoned or put to death sentence. rather his name in the marketwould be affected and $20 million would be lost.
STEP 2. MENTALLY ACCEPT THE WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME
Carriersaid to himself that alright if it has happened, I will work hard again and getmy name branded in the market. and I will make my employees understand that theloss of $20 million was a cost of testing our devices.
after accepting the worst outcomes, Carrier became relaxed.
STEP3. TRY TO IMPROVE THE WORST WHICH YOU HAVE ALREADY ACCEPTED
Again after accepting the reality Carrier started thinking that how can he reduce the loss of $20 million. He took many tests and learnt that if he spend $5000 more on his devices then they will work according to the promised outcome. Then he did the same and despite of losing $20 million, He made a profit of $1.5 million.
Carrier said that if he didn't have followed these steps and continued worrying then he won't be able to get these results.
This technique is very helpful for us because when we accept the worst then our mind diverts and stops worrying. So we can easily concentrate on different solutions of the problem that is causing stress.
Now if you guys are thinking that Carrier's problem was not a BIG DEAL!! and their problems in life are much more depressing, then there is another TRUE STORY.
A person named Earl P. Haney had duodenal ulcers even Specialist Doctors gave up and said that his illness won't be cured and he won't be able to live longer. Now you can imagine how Haney would be thinking. He got really stressed but after that he decided that since I have very less time to live, why not I spend this time happily. His dream was to go on World Tour before he dies. He booked a ticket of a Ship, Doctors warned him that if he went then he won't come back and his body would be thrown in the sea. Since Haney wanted to get buried in Nebraska so he took along his Coffin and made an agreement with the management that if he dies during the trip then they will have to bring his body back to his town. After arranging all the stuff he went to the trip, He had everything whatever he wanted; Played games, smoked cigars, made new friends. And when he came back he gained almost 90 pounds weight, he almost forgot that he has Stomach Ulcers, he was surprised to know that he is now cured from that disease. After that he spend his life taking good care of his health.
Here Haney used the same technique which was used by Carrier which saved his life.
Tell me one thing if someone asks you to give your hands for $5 million, and give your legs for another $5 million and so on. Would you do that? Of course Not!!
So what we learnt that WE ALREADY ARE SO RICH!!
WE OWN THINGS WHICH ARE MORE VALUABLE THAN MONEY
which is our health, our body and our time but unfortunately just for some expensive materialistic desires we put our health, our body on pressure and end up losing our lives.
I'm not saying that don't think about getting rich or successful but make sure you don't disturb your health and body for these things because no matter how successful you become but until or unless you don't have a good health then it won't be fascinating.
We should not get depressed over things which we don't have rather we should feel happy over the things which we already have. This one principle has made my life very easy because whenever I get worried over something, I start thinking that at the same time there are people who are dying because of hunger, there are people who do not have shelter to live in, there are people who are being beaten by the cruel ones. and look at me I have all these things, sitting in a room over a comfortable bed in a secure house having healthy food and still cursing my life for just a small issue?
All of us curse our lives because of these small issues in life but believe me when you ask someone who is dying and has only one day to live, to take your worries and life then he/she will happily take your life and will still be the happiest person in the world.
If you want to end STRESS, ANXIETY, WORRIES and DEPRESSION then
MAKE A HABIT OF COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS
ATLEAST ONCE A DAY and say thanks to your God.
If you start doing this only then you will realize that how rich you are than your thoughts!
DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO GET UPSET OVER SMALL ISSUES
Robert Moore learnt this when he was stuck 276 feet below the water level inside a sub-marine, it was a time of war and Japanese were attacking on them, after seeing his death real close then he realized that how he used to get upset over small issues when he worked for a bank; long working hours, low salary, rented house. All of these problems were the biggest ones for him but now when he was about to die anytime, he understood that all of those worries were irrational and made a promise to himself that if he ever saw sun again then he won't get upset over these small issues. Fortunately, he got a chance to escape from that situation. After that he never broke his promise.
MOSTLY THINGS ARE NOT AS BIG AND BAD AS THEY SEEM TO BE
I still remember that I saved money for a long time to buy a good Cell Phone for myself, and I bought it and one day my cell phone slipped from my hand and got broken. I got very upset and broke down to tears and started feeling like a sick person. But today when I think about that situation it makes me laugh.
Moral of the story is
WE WORRY ON STUPID THINGS WHICH DOESN'T REALLY MATTER ALOT
So next time when you get upset over an issue, then ask yourself that years from now would you still worry about this issue?
IF NOT THEN STOP WORRYING RIGHT NOW
ABOUT ALL THE WORRIES WE WORRY ABOUT "NEVER" HAPPEN
About 500 years ago Michel DE. Montaigne said
"MY LIFE HAS BEEN FULL OF TERRIBLE MISFORTUNES MOST OF WHICH NEVER HAPPENED"
In a research it was found that about 85%of our worries never happen an 79% of the remaining 15% worries are not worth worrying about.
Which means that almost 97% of worries are nothing but your "FEAR" which is eating you.
So let me tell you some ways to avoid unnecessary worries.
1. Stay busy working on things which involves you CREATIVITY, PLANNING and FOCUS,do exercise, read books, paint, play music etc
2. Think and Act Cheerful. as we can't do two things together same like we can't feel two things together means you can't be sad and both happy at the same time.
SMILE WHEN FEEL TENSED, YOU WILL FEEL BETTER.
because Emotions cannot be controlled but our Actions can be controlled and the good thing is they are interconnected.
Just by acting you are feeling good then you start feeling good.
These concepts are taken from a book "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. This book has literally changed the life of millions of people. Now its your time!!